How to GLOW UP (from the inside out) ✨

How to GLOW UP (from the inside out) ✨


It’s the year 2020, and I’d say – about time for a glow up. We all want to transform into the most beautiful, fabulous, successful version of ourselves, but that kind of change doesn’t happen
with just a few tips and tricks. A true glow up starts from within, so today I’m sharing 9 ways to glow up
from the inside out. This is a lesson in improving ourselves and becoming a better version of ourselves. It’s about progress. So let’s level up in life, and glow up together. The first way to truly glow up is to: Change your self talk and inner dialogue. On average, we think 60- to 80,000 thoughts a day. How many of those thoughts are helping and
how many are hurting us? Consider all the negative thoughts that
cross your mind in a day: about yourself, about life, or about others. Take note of the negative self talk like:
“I look horrible today.” “I’m not as pretty as her.” “I’m so stupid.” “I can’t do this.” For each negative thought, replace it with
a positive affirmation that helps you build a positive mindset about yourself: “I am beautiful as I am.” “I am worthy and valuable as I am.” “I’m smart, and I can figure my way through this.” Self confidence, self worth, and self love
are interconnected with your self talk. Watch what you say about yourself and make
sure that you have your own back. Only choose to believe the thoughts that serve you. If any thoughts don’t serve you, choose to let it go. News flash: You don’t have to believe
everything that you think. Thoughts are just thoughts! They come and go; you don’t have to hold onto them. Thoughts don’t have to mean anything unless
you assign meaning to them. So I’ve created an audiotape of positive affirmations that you can download in the description below, to help you get started on changing your self talk. Another way to glow up fast is to: Get out of your comfort zone. Sometimes we fall into autopilot because we’re in the same environment
day in and day out. Our creativity and inspiration in life gets stale because we’re surrounded by the same things, and doing the same things every day. If this sounds like you, get out of your comfort
zone to spark change and inspiration. I usually work from home, so changing it up to work at WeWork helps bring a
fresh perspective to my work. So, I’d like to thank WeWork for sponsoring this video. WeWork is a company that designs and builds offices for entrepreneurs and companies of all sizes. They transform buildings into beautiful,
collaborative workspaces – providing office space, services and community to its members around the world. There are so many things I love about working
in a creative space like this. First, the design and aesthetic make me feel
fresh and inspired. Being in the same space as other entrepreneurs,
creatives, and do-ers motivates me to be more productive and focused
during my work day. There’s a certain energy in the air that makes you feel like everyone is driven to work hard and do something important in the world. It makes you want to be like that too. Of course, there’s also places to refresh
and revive, if you need a little break. Working from home, I tend to get caught up
in my own mind and problems. Being in the bustling atmosphere of the city takes me out of my overthinking mind and makes me feel like I’m a part of
something bigger than myself. That smallness is actually very comforting to me, like my problems aren’t that major and I’m just a small piece in this whole fabric of life. So, if your current environment isn’t serving you, get yourself into an environment that makes you
feel productive and empowered. Another way to glow up is to:
Smile at yourself in the mirror. Each time you see yourself in the mirror, smile. Then, give yourself a compliment. Sounds so cheesy and awkward, I know. But this is an effective way to build self acceptance, self confidence, and self love – which are absolutely foundational
to living your best life. Louise Hay calls this “mirror work” and says it is “the most effective method she’s found for learning to love yourself and see the world
as a safe and loving place.” Start with a simple smile. See where your mind goes. Are you judging yourself? Are you uncomfortable? What thoughts do you notice popping up? You’ll find that the mirror reflects back
to you feelings you have about yourself. Later, you can practice reciting positive affirmations,
complimenting yourself, and begin developing a more loving and
supportive relationship with yourself. Mirror work is going to feel weird at first, but this will help you get more comfortable with yourself, so you can build that confidence and self love. The next one is major: Release your fear of judgment. What so many of us struggle with is the desire
to fit in, be accepted, and loved, which in turn cripples us with the fear of
judgment from others. We are so deathly afraid of what others think, that it paralyzes us from being our true selves and pursuing what we truly want. The most freeing mindset shift that happened for me was to let go of caring about what others think, to release this deep fear of judgment. Eventually I realized that if I’m not living authentically because I’m trying to please or impress others, I’m the one who hurts the most. Other people will go on with their lives and worry about their own problems, but I’ll have to deal with my choices
for the rest of my life. It’s infinitely better to live the life that
YOU want for yourself, even if it’s weird or different from the norm, instead of living a mediocre safe life because you’re afraid of being judged. Be your authentic self, unapologetically, regardless of the opinions around you. And in the end, you’ll actually be loved
for who you truly are. To get the conversation started, answer this
question in the comments below: What would you do if you weren’t afraid
of what people thought? The next way to glow up is to: Heal – mentally, spiritually, or emotionally. We all carry some sort of baggage with us. To glow up into your higher self is to learn to let go of that baggage and heal
from any past wounds. Maybe you’ve been carrying a lot of stress
in your mind and body, and it’s built up over the years. Maybe you’re angry at life and
little things make you tick, but that anger is rooted in a deeper trauma
or childhood experience. Ask yourself: Am I still carrying any
resentment from the past? Any guilt? Any negative emotion I may have been suppressing? The key here is to look deeper. Give yourself all the time and space you need to heal. Emotions are meant to be felt. If they’re buried and suppressed, they’ll only manifest in negative ways for
our mind, body, and soul. Take care of your emotions. Learn to express. Learn to forgive. Learn to let go. These are deep lessons that may take
a lifetime to learn. But you can start now. And if you do this, I promise it will be a
major catalyst for your glow up. Next: Do less. What’s a way to simplify your life and
give you more time? Two words: Do less. In an era of “do, do, do” and “more, more, more”, take a step back and consider: Why are you so busy in the first place? Instead of trying to do so much and
overwhelming yourself, start cutting out the excess in your life and only make time for the essential. Focus on higher quality actions and
prioritize what’s most important, so you can be effective on the right things. Less distractions, more quality time. Less stress, more intention. Less doing, more living. This year, I’m working on slowing down and not rushing. I tell myself “I have enough time,” and
“I don’t have to rush”. Life feels more peaceful this way, and I’m grateful I’m not stuck in a frantic
survival mode like I was before. Another way to glow up is to be able to confidently:
Say No. Learn to say no with grace and gratitude. It’s okay to say no. It doesn’t mean people will hate you for it,
or think you’re a horrible person. At this point, everyone understands that
everyone is busy. We can only take on so much before
we spread ourselves too thin. To avoid overwhelm, or finding yourself doing something you don’t really want to do, learn to say no. Only say yes if you feel it with your entire body
that it’s a 100% YES. If you have a “meh” response, just say no. Don’t feel bad. Remember: Saying no means saying yes to yourself, or yes to something better! And also: You don’t even need to find
an excuse to say no. Oftentimes we feel bad and want to find
a valid excuse for our no: We want to say, “Oh, I’m sorry I can’t make this
because [blah, blah, blah].” I’ve learned from one of our podcast guests
that all you need to do is say: “Thank you for the invitation,” or “Thank you for the opportunity. I’m not available.” Grace and gratitude, my friends. Next, you want to: Surround yourself with
people who push you to be better. You might have heard this quote: “You are the average of the five people
you spend the most time with.” It basically means that the people you surround
yourself with shape who you are. If the people in your life are lazy and unmotivated,
chances are, you’ll be too. If the people around you are all driven,
ambitious, and hardworking, it’s going to make you want to work harder too. Either that, or you’ll drift apart from those friends and find yourself around people who are more like you. If you want to glow up, surround yourself with people who are better than you, who will push you to be better. You’ll learn and grow so much more
in that environment. If you can’t really find people in your life for that, there are so many online communities
or Facebook groups to join. I’ll share our Lavendaire community links
below if you want to check them out. Finally, you want to:
Align yourself to your long-term vision. Don’t get caught up in short term thinking. Sometimes it’s tempting to do something
easier for a short term gain, than do something harder for a long term reward. If you want a true glow up, choose to invest in yourself, challenge yourself, and do something that supports your long term,
big picture dream life goal. Make sure each step that you take is aligned
to that dream life vision. It won’t be as easy or straightforward, but you have to take risks, carve your own path,
learn and fail and learn again – in order to make your epic dreams happen. Alright, my loves, good luck for your glow up. I am cheering for you and I’m so grateful
to be on this journey with you. If you liked this video, you can subscribe for more videos on personal growth and creating your dream life. And also, please share this with anyone
who you think might need it! Sending you lots of love. Bye!

100 thoughts on “How to GLOW UP (from the inside out) ✨

  1. I don’t know what I would’ve done if I hadn’t came across your Chanel … I’m going threw a tough time right now and you are just guiding me threw everything… behind a screen!! Thank you very much ❤️

  2. Omg I deeply needed this video I’ve been in a negative rut for a while and my depression and anxiety strengthened as a result but after watching this video I’ve come to a realization that I need to better myself and cut out the negative thoughts and this video told me just how THANK YOU SO MUCH I LOVE YOU AND CONGRATS FOR 1MILLION SUBS!❤️❤️✨😍🥰 love from a mini subscriber

  3. I'd probably be in the best phase of my life. Living the life you wanna live that is aligned to my vision is the best feeling of a person who's really into personal growth and development.

    Being able to accept that no matter what happens, people will always chose to criticize you and you just do what needs to be done to make yourself achieve that inner peace, will make things go smoothly.

  4. Love what you said about being in the bustling atmosphere of a city & being a part of something bigger than yourself, taking you out of your overthinking mind. I can relate to this so much living in NYC! I love it so much. Being small, a piece of the larger fabric of life.

  5. if i don't care about what people think so much, I think I would be so much nicer than I am today, both to others and to myself. My fear of getting judged makes me a huge people pleaser, which always end with me being bitter about it. I would be bitter towards the people that I tried to pleased and at myself for making decisions that did not have the best intentions. trying to get better 😛

  6. thank you!! I really needed this video today. I was talking to my friend about it and I wanted to search some things that I could do to feel better about myself, and you showed up.
    Thank you again for this <3

  7. Hey dear first of congratulations you have 1 million subscribers and I love your videos it's motivates me 😘😘😘😘😘😘…. God bless you….. Keep smiling and make more videos like this and i m a big fan of yours 😍😍😍😘😘😘😘😘

  8. I loved watching this video. Self-love is something I struggled to develop for a long time. I try to do my best but sometimes I would slip back into the same thought pattern. Part of the reason was working from home because I dreaded going out due to self-esteem issues. I loved this video. In fact, I love all your videos. And Yes, I do smile in the mirror now and it has changed my life. Thank you for this video.

  9. So many great tips in this video! I especially love the idea of doing less so we can focus on what's most important to us.

  10. You kinda talked about Louise Hay at 3:49 as if she was alive. She passed away in 2017, just thought I would share if you didn’t know, I was very sad about it 🙁
    But beautiful video as always 🙂

  11. I have to watch this video from time to time, it's so deep and helpful!
    Unfortunately, it's so hard to say no to my boyfriend because he is offended and becomes really upset because of that

  12. I would have a YouTube channel by now ; I'd be a TikTok star and even be holding seminars but the fear of criticism is really gets to me….

  13. Congratulations for 1M subscribers Aileen, you deserved it. I've been folowing you sinced years ago and feel happy of your achievement 🌸❤️

  14. I love this channel so so much❤❤❤ Its been a year and more I have been following and just awful for the new videos..

    Love from #Bangladesh😍

  15. Hey Aileen, happy to know that you want to visit Taj Mahal. I would like to accompany you and show you the best of India because you have really helped me in shaping my life. Please, if you don't mind, do let me know if you can make it.

  16. Okay. First of all, I must say that I rarely leave a comment for anyone on YT. I'm sooooo happy and grateful that I found you and your channel. right now I'm in a very bad and painful situation that I'm fighting to have a good day or good mood. I don't know why but every time I watch you or your videos, I start to cry. You are so inspiring and you should proud yourself. because I'm so much far away from you and still you inspire me.

  17. if I wasn't afraid of what people think about me, I would have gone outside in the real world, be in front of the camera, take a lot of pictures and enjoy myself alone being free without thinking of others. I wouldn't have hidden.

  18. Congratulations for you 1m subscriber.. I'm so much happy for you.. And vedio is so much inspiring as always.. Much much love, grow more and more this year.. Keep moving forward like this.. You're a sunshine 💕

  19. I honestly love your videos soo much. You are so inspiring and passionate about what you do that it motivates me to take control of my life and love myself. Thank you so much for all of your hard work ❤️

    To whoever is reading this:
    You are beautiful, strong and fully capable of achieving anything you set your mind to. Take action to create your dream life xxxx

  20. For me If I am not afraid of what people might think about me I would be expressing myself through youtube and doing dance covers. I am so afraid about others, even though I am just going to post a picture on social media I would still debate myself If its worth it or not. Actually I hate myself my face, my voice everything I am just fighting for my families and my dreams.

  21. I found you through TikTok and I am glad I subscribed to you. It's good to watch people with positive vibes which inspires me to be a better version of myself

  22. This is very timely! I'd been having a negative self-talk lately and probably experiencing a burnt out from my work, but I'm so so glad and happy that you uploaded this video! Very inspiring and this makes me go right back on my track ❤ By the way, congrats on your 1M subs! #LavilovesForever 💛

  23. This videos relaxes me so much. Everything in your video is so true and inspiring and I love the way you edit these videos. Thank you for sharing

  24. Thank you for the fabulous video Aileen. I’ve got such motivation and new inspiration how to glow up inside and out for each and everyday 💖🥰😍🌼🌸

  25. If I wasnt afraid, I'd be more attuned to myself and soul, and be engulfed into my passions and hobbies making me even more of a better and beautiful person

  26. This is so true. I tried a glow up several times but it didn't work until it came from a place of self-love and not a place of self-hatred. A true glow up starts from within.

  27. I really enjoy and appreciate your content, love how you don't just sit and talk there but actually include footage. And I can't express how much your videos have helped me become a better person! I thank you with all of my heart ♥️. Thank you Aileen

  28. Problems won't last forever. Everything can be changed. Every day is a new opportunity for us to change our life for the better. Sending loves and positivity to all the beautiful souls here. ❤️

  29. Congratulations for hitting 1M subs miss aileen❤️❤️❤️

    You’re such a blessing to me because you’re one of my inspirations , every video you make is really appreciated. Thank you so much for motivating me. You helped me to change my perspective in life and be positive ❤️So much love! Thank you… from Philippines

  30. Its not your usual content but I would love to see your outfit inspirations for spring. Your looks are so beautiful and feminine🌸🌸🌸

  31. I’ve just sent this video to my best friend and said: “ I love her and I love you”, thank you for being a part of my journey, Aileen

  32. I have really bad problem with self love and confidence, because I only have one eye (I lost my other one due to cancer) And its really hard to ignore what others think, since they always stare at me. I've been through lot of depression and I even thought about ending my life. But I try to stay positive, I believe that future will be better. That it has so much more to show me… And I want to see it. That's why I'm living

  33. Beautiful video dear, you are so right! You have to learn to love yourself and create boundaries so that you know what to allow and what not to allow into your life! It is your responsibility to yourself! keep up the amazing work!

  34. I just made a decision that makes me feel like taking a weight off my shoulders and this video is exactly the aesthetic representation of how I feel and how I've decided to allow myself to feel. 2020 is the year of glowing up, not in a superficial way but from the inside out✨ Thank you so much for these pieces of advice that are totally aligned with what I'm creating with my life right now. You're glowing, Aileen, and you're making others glow with you ❤

  35. If I wasn't afraid of what people thought, I'd drop out of pharmacy school, start working part time at a library or bookstore and spend the rest of the time writing my book

    That's what I'd do and it sounds insane haha but that's what my dream life would be

  36. Congrats on 1M 🎉
    Thank you for this- I've been feeling really meh lately and this really got me inspired thatnk youuu❤️

  37. I want say thank you for you to make this video 😍 because when I'm watch your video my life can be motivation .. #sorrymyenglish

  38. I am so so happy I found your channel, binge watching your videos all day and you really gave me the advice I needed to hear. Thank you so much girl! You really inspire others and me as well. We need more people like you who inspire people this way!✨☺️

  39. I had to learn how to say no and it’s been hard but beneficial for my overall well being. You can’t give out of an empty cup, so saying no helped me spend time to fill myself up again so I won’t crash and burn. This was on point and beautiful video as well! Thank you for the inspiration!

  40. Honestly, i have never watched a whole video with this excitement. Your video is amazing, you are a true inspiration! Thank you for sharing and helping make the world a better place. Keep up the good work!!!!

  41. My art helps me a lot… i've always been creating but always only shared it with my loved ones. Now I feel the strong urge to change that. To share my work (anonymously?) but god I am so scared! How does one do it? Expose themselves and their deepes thoughts and feelings to the world?
    There are so many artists i love and i would have never known about them if they hadn't shared their story.
    Still I'm afraid… :):

  42. My negative are not myself, its about the world, I think the world is being demolished by terrorists and the bad people are hurting the world by their own medieval thoughts and opinions….it is very disturbing for me
    I have no problem in my personal life cause I am very pretty , people say that,,,,but those medieval people are so problematic I think…

  43. 1 million subscribers!!!! Wow– I actually just cried seeing this today. I've been following you for a few years now and it's just been amazing. I've literally seen your vision play out, and grown along with it myself. I remember when I first found your channel, I think it was only a year into you starting Lavendaire? I was still in college, very depressed, and I actually scoured your YouTube videos and social media trying to find some evidence that you couldn't possibly know that you're talking about in order to validate my suspicion. Or maybe I was just afraid to hope, and afraid that someone out there was going to prove that my own dreams really weren't impossible. Either way, I've grown so much since then and you have too!!! Even though I can't say that I've been consistent in pursuing my path, I can say that I am always growing, and that you have a part in that.
    I don't know what else to say, besides thank you.

  44. Omg! Happy 1M subbies Aileen!! I'm so glad I came across your channel! It's been almost 4 years since and my life has been all the better. God bless you 😊. Greater things are coming 💙

  45. Omg😻😻 you hit 1 million finally. Big congratulations😍😍. Been following you from 273k. Long way to go❤❤❤ love and light to you🙌❤

  46. Thank you for this video. I've unknowingly put myself into overwhelm and realized this this week… been calming myself down and refocusing to get out of that fog! This video helped… I'm going into the weekend hopeful for a refresh ♡

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