Perfectly Imperfect, The Series: Guest Blogger – Shannan Martin

Perfectly Imperfect, The Series: Guest Blogger – Shannan Martin


Shannan: Hi guys, it’s Shannan. It’s such
a joy to be here with you and to be with Heidi, joining along in her Perfectly Imperfect series.
That’s something that’s so close to my heart, a strong theme throughout my life. You know,
looking back, my life has just turned out so differently than I ever expected and that
I ever planned. When I was a little girl, I had the idea that probably many of you had
or have, I hoped after I met my husband Cory that our kids would all look like him, I didn’t
really want them to get stuck with my big stickin’ out ears or my knobby knees. They’ll
have his dark hair, and his bright blue eyes. I had names picked out for them. What I didn’t
know, and what I never could’ve imagined, was that we would end up on a hard road of
infertility. I remember it feeling so much like a roller coaster. Every month. You go
slowly up the hill, and you’ve got, you know, the anticipation is building, and you’re hoping
and praying that it’s gonna’ work. And you’re just desperate to start your family. I mean,
we were just ready. We had waited, you know, six years into our marriage before we started
trying to have a family, so now that I’m ready, let’s do this! Ummm…and of course, that’s
not how it happened. So, we’d reached the top of that hill, and we were just plunged
down. Every month. Ummm…it wasn’t long before we just knew, our faith, and our faith in
God, we began to understand and hear from Him that this is just simply not the way our
family is going to be created. So, fast forward, we’ve got four beautiful children, they’re
funny, and kinda’ weird, which we love, ummm…they’ve got a lot of personality, a lot of big ideas,
and we shared DNA with none of them. At home, we have three kids, Calvin is 10, he was born
in South Korea, Ruby is 9, she was born not far from where we live, we have an open adoption
with her birth mom and her birth family, Silas is 7, and he’s also from South Korea, and
then the newest addition to our family is actually our oldest child, his name is Robert,
and he’s 21 years old. Ummm…he’s not living in our home anymore, he’s out on his own,
and our path to each of our children was so different, and so unique, and we just see
God’s fingerprints all over our family, in the ways He brought us together. He sort of
came in, and shattered my idea of what the “perfect” family should be, and what it should
look like. Ummm…and I just am so thankful for that. I’m so thankful that He rescued
me from my big ideas. And He rescued me from what, from what I always wanted, and gave
me the family that I was made to have. This hasn’t been a journey that’s been without
pain, and it hasn’t been a journey that’s been without struggle, there have been days
on this road that it’s been really hard, my husband and I have had the opportunity to
walk into the pain that our children experience, over the loss that they’ve all, that they’ve
shared in losing their birth families, and in losing that connection there. And that’s
a real thing. And I never would’ve known that, but now, these are my kids, I’m their mommy,
and so I get to be up close and personal and walk them through some of that pain as best
that I can, and hold their hand, and pray for them, pray with them, and promise them
that they don’t have to choose between their love for me and their love for their birth
mom. There’s room enough for all of us. So, I’m gonna’ share some pictures, and write
a little bit, I’m an author, and so I think best through writing, and through words. I’m
gonna’ share a little bit more about our story. We’re a family that is perfectly imperfect.
We struggle together, we fight, ummm…our house is messy right now, messier than you
can even imagine, but we love each other, and a love that is strong, and it is real
is never perfect. It’s perfectly imperfect. It’s so good to meet you, and I can’t wait
to share a little bit more.

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