Spectrum ft. Cryaotic & Minx

Spectrum ft. Cryaotic & Minx


She loved her like that But telling her family, they might snap So confined, she couldn’t confide, she was playing girl games offline She had an answer but she didn’t ask for this Every little chit-chat was a massive risk If she discussed it, they’d be disgusted Disown her and that’d be disastrous She knew it wasn’t their fault, they were brainwashed They believed some crazy things It’d cause her a smorgasbord of disorders If she listened to what they would think They thought she was smiling but they misidentified Because the clenching of her teeth was just her biting on the lie And her logic said: It’s gonna be okay, it’s gonna be okay This issue is temporary so attempt to wait for one more day There’s nothing wrong with you it’s them They’re just backwards, you’re in the future, they’re in the past And they would abuse you if they knew the facts about it It’s gonna be okay, it’s gonna be okay This issue is temporary so attempt to wait until you’re safe You love her, don’t ever feel like you should apologize Can’t control your feelings or compromise I know it’s difficult to find a guiding a light now but you’ll come out alive so Hold on (Hold on) Until you find the friends who’ll support you Until you find a place you feel secure, you need to Hold on (Hold on) Until you’re independent Wherever in the spectrum you are Hold on (Hold on) Until you find the friends who’ll support you Until you find a place you feel secure, you need to Hold on (Hold on) Until you’re independent Wherever in the spectrum you are It’s gonna be okay (It’s gonna be okay) It’s gonna be okay (It’s gonna be okay) They didn’t ask, he didn’t tell If they found out they’d give him hell If they knew the lowdown he fell for people regardless of pronouns He was already tormented every day But it would escalate if he couldn’t keep a straight face So what would crack first, the eggshells he treads on or himself? Online he was everything he wanted but real life wouldn’t let him be as honest It’d just bring violence his way like “How do you like this attention you special snowflake?” They had problems at home and had to vent their feelings Or an underdeveloped sense of empathy But knowing that didn’t make it any easier all he could do was breathe ’til his logic said: It’s gonna be okay, it’s gonna be okay This issue is temporary so attempt to wait for one more day Step back from the situation, the world’s not a movie it’s not fiction You can’t think “Say it, they’ll accept it”, some people kick you down just because you’re different It’s gonna be okay , it’s gonna be okay This issue is temporary so attempt to wait until you’re safe Be rational, unless you think they won’t attack at all You gotta keep it in man, be practical And I know you feel trapped and small right now but you’ll come out alive I can choose my friends and I can choose my family If they won’t accept me then others will have me I can choose my friends and I can choose my family If they won’t accept me then others will have me I can choose my friends and I can choose my family If they won’t accept me then others will have me so Hold on (Hold on) Until you find the friends who’ll support you Until you find a place you feel secure, you need to Hold on (Hold on) Until you’re independent Wherever in the spectrum you are Hold on (Hold on) It’s gonna be okay, it’s gonna be okay Hold on (Hold on) It’ll be okay, it’ll be okay It’s gonna be okay (It’s gonna be okay)

100 thoughts on “Spectrum ft. Cryaotic & Minx

  1. 2015 me: Can't relate, but I love this song
    2019 me: I'm asexual and can relate, some kid hates my guts because i said I was asexual

  2. This song is helping me a lot. My grandparents are highly homophobic and I’m scared to tell my parents in case they find out. I have a crush on a girl. This song is helping me battle through this <3

  3. Real homosexuals may hide it because they are confused, but should tell someone about it. Attention seekers are different. They will convince themselves they are gay. From purely a scientific viewpoint it is a mental disorder. After millions of years of evolution we don’t know how to mate anymore? My advice is do not bully them. Be friends with them, but also don’t support them. Anyone who supports is harming them, the real people who care say nothing. This mental disease has found a way to spread and it’s through the internet

  4. I CAN CHOSE MY FREINDS AND I CAN CHOSE MY FAMILY IF THEY WONT ACCEPT ME OTHERS WILL HAVE ME

    I'm so lucky to have supportive freindos

  5. "I can choose my friends and I can choose my family, if they won't accept me then others will have me" especially the family part hit me … really hard. i'm straight but just the unaccepting nature of some people, even those close to you can hurt so much. And this line sums it up so well, for everyone that feels like this. u CAN choose who you want to be with doesn't matter how hard it seems. (hope i'm making even the slightest bit of sense eventough it might not fit the subject of the lyrics)

  6. So I decided to listen to this again finally after learning more about myself and discovering who I am, and it really hit home for me. Especially with the part with Cryaotic and the "I can choose my friends, and I can choose my family" part. I'm so glad that I listened to this again, I really needed to hear this.

  7. It's really sad that this is still relevant. The society should have progressed past homophobia and gender discrimination decades ago.

    And damn son, Cry's voice kinda makes me question my straightness

  8. I've been a metal head very involved in the local scene. My scene was EXTREMELY homophobic. Thank you for expressing the other side. I am bisexual and am still dealing with the hate from my scene. People of my derivation are still seen as "fags". It's kept me from expressing the other side of my sexuality. Fuck.

  9. I'm not a part of the LGBTQ+ community, although I am open, HOWEVER, I have always felt a bit different (as evident by the fact that I run a channel all about witchcraft) and not everyone accepted me for this, and still don't accept me for who I am. And it's songs like this that make me know that none of that matters. All that matters is that I am living my best life and that I CAN choose my friends and I CAN choose my family. If they won't accept me, then OTHERS will have me!
    I've followed your content for a long time on my old account, just re-subscribed on this account. Thank you for the amazing, knowledgeable and creative content you provide, Dave. You're one of a kind.

  10. I am a proud Bisexual but i wasn't always proud to show it i was always scared my mother would hate me and my father would beat me but i came out to a friend and she told them. The thought that people we care for could hurt us for being different is insane. Dave, you are by far an inspiration and a gorgeous man

  11. I might be four years late into this but….. This song is just what i exactly need right now, i might not have the gender issues presented in this song but depression and negative thoughts is killing me right now and nobody ever understands in my circle of relationships. "It's gonna be okay" just like the lyrics of the song i tell myself of that everyday, still waiting for that "Safe" place of mine as well to where people can actually understand mental health issues cause everyone around me right now is so ignorant of it and i feel so alone.

  12. I don't really know what i am,sometimes i am more then male then female then sometimes its reverse.Its stressing me out and it makes me cry,i just want to know what i am,I can't tell my family,i Hate my body sometimes because of how female it looks,then i hate it because it looks to female and its stressing me out,right now i'm in school trying not to cry and just breath because of it.anyone have advice please help.

  13. I remember hearing "I can choose my friends, and I can choose my family" and realizing its true.
    Then I hit the reset button and got new friends.
    Now I've got a wonderful girlfriend, wonderful friends, my mom supports me and my love

  14. I find Dave's songs the best thing to do when ever I'm thinking of just commiting suicide. I know I have some mental health issues, but I'm to scared to atually have that confermed. I know if I did, my dad would ask why, but he is the reason. I'm trans, but no one has confermed it. I hate my father, I feel like I can't even call him that. I got my hair cut, and ever since, he's been like "Hello DAUGHTER, how are you baby GIRL, and just saying something releted to girls in every sentence. I think he knows. He has a girlfriend, and I dont like it. He never really payed attention to me, but now, it's like I don't exist. I think of sucide everyday, but everyone says it's just me looking for attention, but I am. Attention to save me. And to make this all worse, I'm only 10 years old. 10. Fucking. Years. ONLY. I also have school, and every time I get one answer wrong, my mind will just be like "You fat ugly useless piece of shit. You can't even get the easiest question right! Everybody's life would be better if you were dead, so why not pay everyone a favor" My self-esteem is REALLY low.. I can't handle it. I know I will find a better life, but I'm scared to. I can't even be called my atually name. It's Eric! But no one cares, and I'm to scared and mad at myself to do anything about it. I just can't handle life, and I'm doing anything to keep myself alive, although I don't want to.

  15. I know I’m late but I thought when the girls were about to kiss, boyinaband just bust in through the door screaming at the girls

  16. I always listen to this song because my family is always making fun of me cause im bi everyone in my family betrayed me when i came out

  17. The more I see of you and your work, the more I adore. Thank you for having such a brilliant mind AND a big heart! So fearlessly beautiful, inside & out! ♥♥

  18. Let’s overly verbose this. FIRST VERSION, feel free to improve (inb4 “minimum words for essay” comments. Also got lazy mid way through):

    A homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity expressing an intense emotion known as “love” towards another homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity
    Telling the homosexual females biological unit, known as a “family”, might express the sudden and hostile reaction causing a fear response from the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity
    The homosexual female expressed concern towards an unknown individual or individuals that openly expressing homosexual tendencies in the presence of her biological unit is not an option
    The homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity has implied that she is participating in homosexual sexual activities, without the usage the internet, which exists in various modern electronic devices
    The homosexual female had a response for the argument of whether or not homosexuality is influenced by genetics, but said homosexual female has not expressed explicit want or need to be homosexual in nature, in which has far caused an untold amount of emotional suffering due to unfortunate series of events
    Every conversation, no matter how small, with the homosexual females romantic and perhaps even sexual partner, has caused massive amounts of risk due to her family being against homosexuals for a currently unknown reason, known as homophobia
    If the homosexual female conversed to others concerning the topic of homosexuals, said homosexual females biological unit will express the emotion of disgust
    The homosexual females biological unit will cease contact with said female in an act commonly known as “disown”, and the end result will be disastrous due to the implications of such an action
    The homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity firmly believed that her homosexuality was not at the fault of said female, and mentioned that the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity’s biological unit were misinformed due to lack of education in the subject of homosexuality and bisexuality
    The homosexual females of physical and sexual maturity’s biological unit holds beliefs that may be considered as unorthodox or heretical by the wider community
    Said beliefs would cause the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity to experience a wide variety of mental confusion and disruption of mental processes
    If the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity to take notice and act upon the conversations of the beliefs of the females biological unit
    The biological unit believed that the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity was expressing the emotion of happiness, visually identified by contracting various facial muscles to move the edges of her mouth upwards, but said biological unit misidentified said emotion
    Because the flexing of her facial muscles that control the human jaw to express anger was the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity enduring the lie of heterosexuality
    And the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity has the beliefs of the current situation will improve or remain in quality, the current situation will improve or remain in quality
    The issue of homosexuality in the homosexual females current situation is temporary in nature so attempt to wait for one more 24 hour cycle of day and night
    There is nothing wrong with any homosexual individuals, in this situation, the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity, it is the biological unit, they are incorrect in their beliefs due to lack of education
    Your beliefs of the subject of homosexuality is progressive, while the homosexual female of physical and sexual maturity’s biological unit remain conservative
    And the biological unit would commit an illegal act of abuse in multiple forms, such as physical, mental, and emotional if said biological unit understood the truth of their daughters sexual orientation, romantic, and perhaps sexual actions
    The current situation will improve or remain in quality, the current situation will improve or remain in quality
    The issue of homophobia is temporary so attempt to wait until you’re in a environment in which you believe will cause more safety then the current environment
    Do not apologize due to your situation due to wanting a romantic, perhaps a sexual relation with another individual of the same biological sex
    Can not control your sexual and romantic urges nor compromise on said sexual and romantic urges
    I, the singer, understand that it is difficult to find the metaphorical guiding light but if followed said metaphorical guiding light properly, you will leave the unfavorable situation unharmed, so

    REMAIN STEADFAST
    Until you locate individuals you consider as friends who will unconditionally support you regardless of sexuality

    Until you locate a location you believe is secure, you must

    REMAIN STEADFAST

    Until you are financially independent and living on your own
    Wherever in the sexual spectrum you are, as the Kinsey scale
    REMAIN STEADFAST

    Until you find an individual or multiple individuals you consider as friends who will support you however they can
    Until you locate an area that you believe is secure, you must
    REMAIN STEADFAST
    Until you are independent from your parents, wherever in the Kingsley Scale you are

    It is going to be alright
    It is going to be alright

    [the artest known as “Boyinaband”:]
    They didn’t ask about his sexuality, he didn’t tell them about his sexuality
    If others found out about his sexuality, they would cause trouble
    If others knew the information that he felt attraction for individuals regardless of preference of pronouns
    He was already tormented every day
    But it'd escalate if he couldn't keep a straight face
    So what will break first
    The eggshells he treads on or himself
    Online he was everything he wanted to be in real life
    But real life wouldn't let him be as honest due to his situation
    It'd just bring violence his way like
    "How do you like this horrible attention you special sensitive individual?"
    They had problems at home and had to vent their feelings to those he trusts
    Or an severely underdeveloped understanding of the emotion “empathy”
    But knowing that didn't make it any easier
    All he could do was breathe in a feeble attempt to calm himself

    Until this mans logic said

    [artists known as “Boyinaband” & “Cry”:]
    Everything will be alright, everything will be alright
    This issue of bullying is temporary so attempt to wait for one more 24 hour period
    Step back from the negative situation
    The world's not a movie, it's not fictionional scene
    You can not think "say it, they will accept it"
    Some people will kick you down just because you are different from the cultural norm
    Everything will be ok, everything will be ok
    This issue of bullying due to your sexuality is temporary so attempt to wait until you are in a safer location
    Be rational
    Unless you think others won't attack you at all
    You gotta keep this information private, listener, be practical
    And I understand you believe you’re trapped and small at the moment but you'll come out alright

    [the artist “Boyinaband” repeating this section three times:]
    I CAN choose my friends
    And I CAN choose those who I call my family
    If they won't accept me for my sexuality, or other reasons
    Then others will have the honor of being my friends and family

    [the artist “Boyinaband”:]
    So
    REMAIN STEADFAST
    Until you find the friends who'll support you no matter what
    Until you find a place you believe is secure, you need to
    REMAIN STEADFAST
    Until you're independent from your biological family
    Wherever in the Kinsey scale you might be on

    [artists “Boyinaband”, “Minx” & “Cryaotic”:]
    REMAIN STEADFAST
    It will be okay, it will be okay
    REMAIN STEADFAST
    It will be okay, it will be OKAYl

  19. this is like me and my boyfriend. we can't hold hands or kiss or even touch eachother or his mom and mine are gonna get suspicious and ask us many questions.

  20. This honestly made me cry, it’s so hard to hold on and honestly the only reason I’m still here is because my friends go through the same stuff and we promised each other we would leave when we’re 18, and though it’s only 2 years away now it feels so far. I really hate how I just found this song the younger me is who needed it the most

  21. I listened to this song in repeat while crying. This song is really really good and helped and will help a lot of people struggling, especially me..

    I have a gf (who moved away ;-;) and about three people know it, tho I'm more lucky then a heart breaking amount of other people. My school is pretty chill with that sorta thing so that's great. My mum knows i got a gf too, but she doesn't want to know anything about it and my dad's basically a Neanderthal and is very conservative so he won't know shit till I'm getting the fuck outta here ig.. because of that, the "I can choose my friends and I can choose my family" part really hit home, cuz one time he said some shit like "your friends will all leave some day, the only thing that'll stay is your family" and dude my friends are more family than your alcoholic ass is so fuck off mate.

    Yea, the comment is very long but I will not apologize because I do so too much and I feel like nobody cares for me or my story but fuck you, I matter, at least thats what I've been saying to myself to try and not be so full of self hate. But I've definitely improved on that, so yay for that.. if you've put up with my bs till now.. thank you for listening and have a better day than me ♡

  22. Thank you so much I was so close to ending it if your song didn't come on I wouldn't be alive right now thank you so much for the song

  23. h0LY FUcKįng shiT dude this is a good fricking message Jesus Christ this is inspiring I’m sad I didn’t find this sooner sigh 😔

    also cry’s voice is so n i c e like holy Jesus mother of god and minx is like q u e e n. bitch

  24. “It’s gonna be okay, it’s gonna be okay, this issue is temporary so attempt to wait for one more day.” That’s my fav line. Cause I know that I’ve gotta wait. And that’s okay. Just one more day and I’ll be able to be open about my sexuality. Thank you Boyinaband, Cry, and Minx. Thank you 🖤

  25. ha glad I don't have to deal with anything like this ever because I view people purely as a tool to accomplish my own goals and feel no personal or emotional attachment to them at all… hahahaha…

  26. This is a really helpful song, my best friend is homophobic and I'm part of the LGBT community…I always tried to give my point of view when she says her homophobic bullshit …she doesn't know I'm part of this community since I have a heterosexual relationship but it's so hard… I'm tired of this, I love her but I always asking myself…how she could be your best friend, almost your sister if she doesn't know something that important about you? She and the family of my partner are the family I choose

  27. “Online he was everything he wanted, but real life wouldn’t let him be as honest” 😐 exactly me 🏳️‍🌈♠️

  28. Last few years I’ve always said I was bisexual but recently I’ve had feelings and thoughts making me believe that I am actually gay and this song no matter how broad it is really helps especially when I have a homophobic family seriously don’t know what I’d do with it Dave making songs like this one where the emotion is there in subjects that really matter ❤️❤️

  29. I just wanted to say thank you, you won't see this I know that much but this song has meant everything to me for years. I found it in grade six when I really started questioning after years of Catholic school then grade seven I met my girlfriend of 3 years, we broke up a while ago but I'm glad I had this when I was forced into a corner by my shitty school system when I felt the only way out was to disappear. thank you all so fucking much

  30. This hit me I am lesbian my mom is bisexual my sister is lesbian too and my dad is just straight tho..

  31. I would say something but i can't cuz my friends watch this video alot and they always see if i say something so i can't say anything even if i did i would be made fun of for being bi and never being able to keep a gf or anything hell I'm lucky if im even able to date anymore all i know is ur vids and jacks always help me have a good life dave

  32. I recently came out to my father on accident. He Supported me😊 My step father and my mother are very Homophobic… My Step mom has known since I realized. Tbh I think she knew before I did 😂😅

  33. Holy shit i remember bawling my fucking eyes out the first time i heard this song.
    Id say a year or so later made myself cry again lmao

  34. When friends support you, but when you don't support you, then what do you do? I'm in a dark place and I can't accept myself, I thought I did but I can't. If I did I would lose everything

  35. I love this song so gosh darn much. Being a bisexual female, this song has comforted me. It gave me the courage to come out to my parents. While my father accepted me and remembers, my mother doesn’t accept it and sh pretends I’m still straight to the point she even forgot that I’m bi. This song still stays with me still to this day.

    Thank you so much. I love your music very much.

    Also: “you love her!” Yeah yeah I know… but she doesn’t love me and she made that clear. Should I hang on or let go?

  36. Here’s to all who won’t be able to celebrate coming out this Coming Out Day (Oct. 11)! Remember that you are loved and valid, even if those who surround you right now wouldn’t accept you. You can choose your friends and you can choose your family. Just hold on a little while longer!

  37. Thanks Dave, for screaming for everyone here in the closet since we can't really ourselves right now 🙂

  38. I remember watching this just only starting to come to terms with being trans and when I came out I honestly just kept telling myself that I can choose my friends and I can choose my family and honestly that helped me aloof especially when my bio dad and his family disowned me I lists this song on repeat after that and now about 2 almost 3 years after coming out I still come back to this song when I need some reassurance that coming out was the right decision

  39. It’s the New Testament ok no matter you’re sexual orientation you won’t go to hell hammer that into you’re brain you deserve love and happiness ok hammer that in you’re not going to hell for you’re sexual orientation ok the only thing that can bring you to hell is not believing Jesus died on the cross for your sins that’s it’s that simple god loves you no matter you’re sexual orientation or race or anything ok
    -a random bisexual

  40. The part where Minx sang "YOU LOVE HER!" tugged my heart strings
    Right now, my girlfriend is struggling with her family's relationship ever since she came out about her sexuality and our lesbian relationship. I'm constantly worried about her mental health due to her mother condemning her 24/7. All I want to do is be there for her and show her my love and support.

  41. I’m gay and I’m not gonna come out to my family I told my sister but nobody else. So I’ll say it here. I’m gay

  42. I started crying because my parents found out im Pansexual and they hated me for it they kicked me out and my whole family hates me apart from my cousin…

  43. On the gender spectrum, I'm about here:
    👧………………me..centre…………………..👦
    My parents are really transphobic tho.

    Edit: I was born in a female body

  44. How can anyone dislike this?? Seriously, as someone who was literally beaten half to death for being a lesbian I wish this song had been around a lot earlier and it's still making me cry even though I've listened to it so many times….

  45. This song reminds me of the time when I was younger, me and my dad were in the car and I looked out the window and saw the teenager sitting down on a bench with his head in his hands, I really wanted to ask him if he was alright but my dad kept driving. I promised myself that if I ever saw anybody like that again I would pull over and ask them if they r ok.

    Anyway sorry for wasting your time XP

  46. i know im so late but i wanted to say my piece here…
    i am a lesbian, been dating my girlfriend online since the 27th of January…i remember laying in bed, so worried and nervous to tell her how I felt. We were being so loving with each other; she was expressing feelings that I had hidden from her for a while because I felt she wouldn't love me back. I was scared of expressing my honest feelings for so many reasons…family, personal experience, and fear of seeing my own parents arguing almost all the time…but I loved her too much, and all those insecurities and fear, were defeated by my growing love for her…i finally told her, she, of course, felt the same way…and we started dating that night
    i've come out already…my parents always tell me it's all fake; they point out the negatives all the time and hardly ever refer to her as my "girlfriend". We fight a lot about it; and whenever I ask for some simple support, they always seem to deny me. They don't believe in our love. I wrote such a powerful letter to my mother, explaining our relationship, almost cried and prayed for understanding when I read it allowed to her. She may let us stay together, but she never seems to support it. I'm not mad at her for it, in fact, we still get along well! I still love her all the same…but it gets uncomfortable and scary to think I can't be happy with my partner without my brain telling me your parents hate it. I just wish they would fully accept and keep my hopes up, rather than drag me down or stay silent when I do talk about her…but that's just how they are; and I cant change that
    i love her so much, she means the world to me and has gotten me through so much. When my family was ignoring me, I locked myself in my room and cried for hours; she was there to pick me up and love me…regardless if I was in the wrong or not. Whenever we talked or had sleepover calls together, I could always feel myself blushing without warning…sometimes I wouldn't realize, and when she'd point it out I just felt more and more love drunk. We've cried for each other, loved each other and have always stuck by one another, even if I can't always get online to see her because of personal problems. She's so understanding and so caring; my problems just die when I'm around her and I always find myself grinning and blushing whenever we chat or roleplay as we usually do…she loves me, and I love her; we are such a huge inspiration to each other and I will stick by her through everything, no matter how tall our barriers get, we'll destroy them someday; and whenever that day comes will finally be together

    this song is beautiful to me; I will be using it as a reminder that even if my family doesn't accept me, I shouldn't fall to them because of it. if i love her, i am not going to cry tears of sorrow when they tell me i don't, and just like this song states, i am going to hold on. like it says, i am not going to say sorry for having genuine feelings. my brain tells me im wrong, but i don't listen to my brain; for my heart says i love her, and i listen to my heart.

    thank you for making this song. and i pray for and support all the lesbians who have yet to come out…ya'll just gotta hold on; speaking as someone who has spoken out i can feel all your pain…but trust me, it all gets better in the end

    hold on

  47. Last time I listened to this song I was a scared closeted bisexual trans kid. It's been a bit I'm out to my insanely supportive mother and working on becoming the man I've always known I was. Everyday I am reminded of the mounds of supportive people in my life

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